When I was in younger I did not have a firm idea of who I was and what I wanted to be. Because of this, I ended up going through a lot of back and forth concerning the type of person I wanted people to see me as, instead of just letting people see me for how I truly wanted to behave.
My personality and belief system were not firm as they are now, but that is normal for almost everyone. You will never know who and what you truly want to be until you go through the various social interactions and environmental events that will shape your overall personality and the personality traits you will acquire.
This is why they say it takes a community to raise a child, as the influences (people, events, things, culture etc) you have in life determine what you like or dislike, what you believe in, how you behave with different people.
In the case of nature and nurture, I do believe inclination or tendency to certain personality traits and behavior can be passed at birth from genes but I believe these tendencies are not as powerful as nurtured conditioning. When many people usually say a child is just like their parent it might seem like a sign of nature. But what they do not take into consideration is the fact that this child lives with the parent so it would not be surprising if the child replicated behavior that is typical of the parent.
Children learn from the environment they interact with the most, and will copy it if they assume it is right to them. Right and wrong is relative on an individual level, so if someone judges a certain behavior right that is on a society level ethically wrong, it would be hard to convince that person otherwise.
Each person has their own moral system, a judgment of what is right and wrong based on the firmness of belief in that specific moral and then on the situation in question where that moral is being exercised. So even though a man would believe in and even voice he would never hit a woman, if he finds himself being attacked by a woman he might decide to forgo his moral belief for his safety or hold his ground firmly, trying to find a way out of it without resorting to that outcome.
Life shapes us, the struggle, the people, the pain, the joys, the laughs, the places, the world and the living things around us all shape our personalities. Our life made us who we are today.
David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. You can follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw