When your confidence is down and the stress is high, it is hard to consider smiling and laughing up with other people. But when I think of losing heart, I remember that many people around have many problems too. Some of these people might be smiling with me hiding their pain. They are trying to stay resolute by pushing the pain of their problems aside and pushing through with a smile.
Someone once told me that when you enter your workplace you should always leave your problems at the door. Naturally, that is important for any employees to follow. But in real life, the same rule applies for the same reason it applies in the workplace. There will be a time and place for everything, in the workplace it is not appropriate to be fully expressing your life problems.
In most other social situations the same holds true. Many people tend to hold their problems close to their chest because they fear who gets wind of it. Talking about your problems with a trusted friend is therapeutic. But you have to be careful of who hears your problems and what they might do with it. This is why if it is not the place to vent we just do not do it. We all have our special places and people we trust far more than acquaintances and strangers.
We might also tend to avoid expressing our emotional pain if we know it might hurt someone’s feelings. The person might be causing you stress or emotional distress not on purpose but subliminally. You may feel like venting but you know it will come off as an offence and you do not want to offend the person in question.
You would in case disperse the stress through other means or have a conversation with the person in question. To get a firm understanding of what is happening to you and how they can assist with limiting the pain they are causing you.
Then there is the possibility of being under stress and emotional pain. Yet you smile to keep the morale of the people close to you, you smile to make them feel better. Because if you look, act depressed and unconfident it will pass on to the people around you, especially if they are close to you.
Telling you this from the heart, it Is hard to smile when I am under stress and my confidence is down, but I have to because I want everyone happy even myself. So I make my day, I make my own happiness, I control the pain you can too.
David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. You can follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw