People are probably talking bad things about you behind your back, that’s life get used to it. Other people are not safe from you either, you do it too. On the surface we may not acknowledge it, but we all do it in some form or another.
We talk about other people in good and bad light depending on the situation. We may do it to pass the time, move a conversation along, use the person’s personality traits as an example, to describe how a person’s personality traits in a particular event provided some enlightenment for you.
It is not to say it is not a bad thing to do, it actually is, but we are humans we tend to do bad things for good reasons. But as they say, too much of a bad thing is never good. Talking behind someone’s back does nothing more than spread bad reputation and gossip. If you have a problem with someone it could have been easily solved by talking to the person in question. The rumor mongering and slander is not needed after that conversation either.
Sometimes we take it too far if we are angry enough. Such slander is not healthy as with every bad thing said we grow more believing of what we say. If what we say in reality is actually wrong we find it hard to believe anything else except what we have said because we said it way too much and so passionately it hurts to take it back now, worse apologize for it.
Case in point, a mother might have been burned and disgraced by her son in the past. But as he grows older matured and changed his behavior and outlook on life. The mother still disregards him and talks ill of him giving him no chance to present his changed ways.
Sometimes we need to step back and give more consideration to people, after all we ourselves are not perfect either. Remember look at yourself in the mirror before you look down on others.
David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. Check out his work on his website or follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw, google, pinterest