As a partner you should work for your relationship and make your partner happy. If your partner is not happy you are not going to be happy. Because your partner will make it known how poor a state the relationship is in. This can be stressful as you have to deal with your partner making their stress yours. This is why arguments, the hallmark of a dysfunctional relationship can be a good thing.
They are an opportunity to know what your partner’s unfulfilled desires. So all you as a loving person have to do is fulfill their desire. Like filling the crack in your relationship, fulfilling desire is important to any working relationship. For your partner this should not be a problem. In relationships we all should work towards it being 50/50, compromise is important if possible.
But that does not mean you should slave yourself for the sake of the relationship. If you know in the bottom of your heart you cannot fulfill that desire for some reason whether because of belief, bad timing etc. Make that known to your partner.
Now here is the important part whether your partner will accept it or not. If it comes that you are faced with such a decision know that love is about acceptance. If you cannot accept your partner’s differences then do not lie to yourself and them. Move on and do not make bread from water.
This is why conversation is important between partners we know all about our partners from what they say and how they live. Behavior is important as well and sends just as heavy a message. So watch your partner as much as you listen to them.
In closing, when a relationship turns into a love affair do not let feelings rule you. Peruse the finer details and make sure both of you are on the same page. Talk often and express your true feelings, do not hide discontent and make your partner the centre of your world.
By making them feel like they are the only person in the world.
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