“Do you like me?”
“You are beautiful.”
“I want you.”
She asks why.
“We should be together.”
She smiles and looks away.
Men wonder why women do not look at them or consider them worth their time. Well, that might not be your fault or because they think themselves better than you. Woman, the mystery men try to figure out. To be honest I used to like many men found women strange. When in actuality they were not. When did I realize this, the more I talked to females, the more I realize they and males are not that dissimilar.
The difference is how we are grown, the expectations of each gender when you grow up. Please note this is brutal version of those expectations not the politically correct ones. Men are grown to have as many women within a 5 mile radius, have a child of blood relation (does not need to in wedlock), get married and still have another woman on the side. Women are grown to not have their sex life public news (even if they have 3 boyfriends), be independent, be married and have children, be able to cook and take care of all home duties.
I think that’s accurate, no? It might be different in some cultures and countries, anyways that just the gist of it. To be honest females like males are affected by these constraints and expectations. We all are. We look at them differently, some show middle fingers to it, some desire them as well, while some prefer living life waiting on the right moment or person.
Personally I went through much heartache appealing to women. Failing in the process thinking to myself maybe the problem was me. When In actuality I was just not the guy they were looking for. It was just not the right time or maybe I said the wrong thing.
Yes, we as men think saying anything will get us far. If a random woman just walks up to me and wants to have sex with me. Considering the knowledge I have attained and the situation I might not take that offer.
Men can be sneaky so can woman. I remember a case a friend of mine had a woman chasing him around. He did not take her offer because he was not attracted to her like that. Two weeks later he found out she was pregnant.
More or less, he was found out he was not the only one she was chasing to have sex with. He confronted her about it and she told him she was not sure her current boyfriend would accept the baby. She was planning to throw the baby on a guy. A seemingly more responsible one in her opinion, funny the current boyfriend actually accepted the baby with open arms, figures right?
Now this is not an attack on women. Let us be real men have done more damage overall than women. That might be the problem at first sight. At the end of the day many women get a lot of attention anyways. It is normal for some to have long lists of men that they can draft pick from when their last relationship fails.
So when you and me approach, why should they needlessly bother to appease us? Unless we are the ideal guy from first glance, they might give us a negative response and not even bother.
Some might not be so cold and give us a chance as long as we do not ruin it. But that depends, the same method does not work for every person. Each women is not the same, being candid might not work with some. Like using jokes and one liners might not work with others.
If you fail, accept it and move on. Women fill the globe it is not the end of the world. Also it helps if you actually talk to women on a regular. No, not asking women out or talking about sex. Talk to women about themselves. Ask them about how they think, what they desire, what they believe in.
You will realize they think just like males on most things, see no mystery to them at all. The more you know about women and their habits and desires the more you are likely to understand them.
Understanding makes it easier to know what to say to a person. Understanding is the hallmark of a good human being. You cannot ask much of someone you do not understand.
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