Rest or Work

Sleeping

Drink, party, debauchery, all the irresponsible fun I could have. Sometimes I wish I could throw away my responsibilities, then rest and party for the rest of my life. But if I do that I will get nowhere and I will be resting in the same spot. Partying is fun, but it does not bring your life further in anything to be honest. You cannot progress unless you get up and do something. It is simple, whether it be work, chores or responsibilities.

Granted rest is important, but too much gets you nowhere. Like with me, I only sleep two to four hours if I can. All that time translates to a lot of work done. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to get ahead. That is how you grow. By losing and winning. Sleep I lose, wealth I gain, fun I lose, career I gain.

So why work so hard? Think of it this way, do you want to work all your life or work very hard for 20 or so years. See sometimes you have to see the bigger picture. Young people tend to not think of the future as much as the present. Trust me I have been hungry, I am not going back to that. Working hard in my young age, I can eat and travel like hell when I am old.

Sounds good right? Especially since the work I do, I am passionate about. Everyday feels like a party (most times). Working towards passions will get you up most days. The small chores with said passion, work or career matter little when the end goal is in reach.

That is what gets me up every day. That is what drives me to put aside things such as rest, partying or getting drunk. Because I want to be happy for the rest of my life not a few minutes, eight hours, not one night, but for the rest of my life.

Rest, I will get that when my work is done and not before.


David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. Support him on Patreon Check out his work on his website or follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw, google, pinterest

Rest or Work

Filling The Crack in your Relationship

As a partner you should work for your relationship and make your partner happy. If your partner is not happy you are not going to be happy. Because your partner will make it known how poor a state the relationship is in. This can be stressful as you have to deal with your partner making their stress yours. This is why arguments, the hallmark of a dysfunctional relationship can be a good thing.

They are an opportunity to know what your partner’s unfulfilled desires. So all you as a loving person have to do is fulfill their desire. Like filling the crack in your relationship, fulfilling desire is important to any working relationship. For your partner this should not be a problem. In relationships we all should work towards it being 50/50, compromise is important if possible.

But that does not mean you should slave yourself for the sake of the relationship. If you know in the bottom of your heart you cannot fulfill that desire for some reason whether because of belief, bad timing etc. Make that known to your partner.

Now here is the important part whether your partner will accept it or not. If it comes that you are faced with such a decision know that love is about acceptance. If you cannot accept your partner’s differences then do not lie to yourself and them. Move on and do not make bread from water.

This is why conversation is important between partners we know all about our partners from what they say and how they live. Behavior is important as well and sends just as heavy a message. So watch your partner as much as you listen to them.

In closing, when a relationship turns into a love affair do not let feelings rule you. Peruse the finer details and make sure both of you are on the same page. Talk often and express your true feelings, do not hide discontent and make your partner the centre of your world.

By making them feel like they are the only person in the world.


David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. Support him on Patreon Check out his work on his website or follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw, google, pinterest

Filling The Crack in your Relationship

Why I do not get Angry

Anger is something I used to have a problem with. Nowadays it does not even phase me, much less occur. Anger at people I did not like and the injustices in my life truly gripped me and became a fixture in my life. Essentially I was an irate and bitter person. What has changed so much that I almost do not get angry anymore?

No, I did not find a new religion. Though that would seem likely when you think about it, people would assume your angry mind was relieved by the experience of some new philosophy or mindset (probably the eastern ones).

Well, I will admit, my philosophy and way of thinking have changed but the change comes from not some old philosophy. But a new one, entrepreneurship, that is why my anger and angry behavior has lessened extensively.

People have done many wrongs to me and still do. I used to unleash on them, but I have stopped. The perspective and disdain for certain things and people I have not changed. But my approach has.

That time in my adulthood had come. Looking at myself, I had to realize I was going backward not forward. Just because I cared about people and things that I hated, by getting angry I am exhorting effort towards what has angered me.

That is a waste of time in my opinion, so I started to stop caring about people trying to screw with me or problems in my life. When I started thinking like an entrepreneur, I realized all those things are a waste of time. When I could be working my butt off to earn some money I am arguing with someone about something meaningless.

As an entrepreneur I learned one important thing, never care about the problem, care about the solution. Once I learned that great advice, I realized people tend to care about arguing about the problem but never solving it. People tend to waste time and throw blankets over the problem rather than face up to the problem.

Once I adopted the mindset of not caring about the problem, but solving the solution I realized I was getting into fewer arguments and becoming less angry and more at peace. So It was not that I stopped caring I just stopped caring about the wrong things.

As time passed I applied the same principle to putting forward my efforts towards important things. If it was not advancing me and of no personal importance, trust me I would not care. Hence I would not get frustrated and stressed about it enough to get angry.

You know where my anger goes, my graphic designs, my stories I write, the novel I am writing. That is where my anger is going, straight into my business. That is why I work so hard, that is why when I lose I get better and work harder to win.

Because all my anger goes into my hands and mental power to succeed, anger is something I control. Why get angry at my life and at people putting me down, when I can get successful and watch them hate me and wish to be me.

The perfect victory.


David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. Support him on Patreon Check out his work on his website or follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw, google, pinterest

Why I do not get Angry

Strength of a Man

strength or muscles of a man,

No one likes a man who cannot stand on his own. Women do not want “soft” men as they call it. With many men becoming bitches in the face of adversity, most women end up being the shoulder they cry on. Whether it is a good look or not is unimportant, women need a rock not a sponge (no offense to Spongebob).

Please note “soft” men does not refer to sensitive men, I am sensitive but trust me I am a rock. What I mean by men who do not stand on their own is men who act or seem tough but when the chips are down, cower in a corner like roaches. This does not include situations where the man’s life is in danger.

It really concerns the responsibility the man has. It is noted that many young men usually ignore their responsibilities. Women with such men as partners, end up having to do both jobs, that of the woman and the man of the household. It can be stressful on the woman and women do not get the respect they deserve for holding down the fort.

A man should be able to stand on his own and be the rock for the woman in question. Sometimes a woman needs someone to lean on from time to time. It goes the same way, a man is not unbreakable sometimes he could use a shoulder.

But more often than not, men always seem to be lacking. The way we are socialized and raised, strength is important to men. Along with pride, we value those attributes when it comes to defining our worth. Personally, I do not care about that.

Being a loner most of my life, self-reliance was paramount to me surviving. This Is how I became reliable. Disciplining this reliability was tough though. Many times my confidence affected my work ethic. With practice, I honed my pride and belief into a force that cannot be shaken by any small wave.

The worth of me is priceless as far as I am concerned, to others, it is relative. So it is pointless to me to make a big deal about such futile things. This is how I became a rock, confidence and utility. People can rely on me and seek me out for my expertise.

Pride, that I have keeps me confident and prevents me from losing sight of what needs to be done. This is why people respect me because I do not only just not fail them, I do not fail myself. Never should I stand in front of someone and say I could not complete the task.

Neither should you, you have a woman, let them take care of you in leisure, not under pressure. Do your part and be their rock.


David Shaw is a certified nerd and scum of the earth. Jamaican by birth, he enjoys long walks and the simple things in life. He is also an entrepreneur, writer and graphic designer. Support him on Patreon Check out his work on his website or follow his mundane madness on twitter @davidcs_aw, google, pinterest

Strength of a Man